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FAQ's and Fees
How do I know you are a safe and ethical practitioner?
Overall ethical guidelines
I have regular supervision with Psychotherapist DK Green and hold public liability insurance with BGI UK. I am a member of ASIS and uphold it's code of ethics which applies to the Somatic Sex Therapy area of my practice. Some areas of the ASIS code are useful and apply across the board in my practice, which I summarise here:
Section 1 and 3:
You can expect me to behave in a professional manner, to conduct responsible relationships with a care to do no harm. You can expect me to be reliable in agreements forged. I recognise the importance of consent and provide a range of options for you, from which you can elect to chose to best serve your growth. At no time will you be required or coerced to participate in any activity, event or exercise.
Section 5 a-f:
Sessions are client centered and clients' boundaries are of primary importance. I understand the imbalance of power between practitioners and clients or students. I hold a care not to use that power imbalance for exploitation of any kind. Sessions are not a vehicle by which romantic sexual connection is fulfilled, either my own or that of my clients. I do not have any sexual connection with clients outside of sessions.
Ethics and Guidelines specific to True Self Systems
As a multi modality practitioner it is important that it is clear what is included and excluded in each type of session, please read the guidelines that follow.
These sessions include talking and meditation style practices. They do not include hands on body work or nudity. Sometimes it might be appropriate to make light physical contact (e.g. such as placing a hand on your shoulder) - I facilitate consent conversations so you are empowered to be at choice about any touch before it happens.
Family Constellations therapy
These sessions include talking, meditation style practices and hands on bodywork. They do not include nudity and bodywork does not include genital stimulation. Sexual arousal may sometimes occur when you breathe deeply - that is totally ok to acknowledge but sessions are not for this purpose.
Breathwork and Somatic Sex Therapy
Before offering bodywork, I will teach you elements of the wheel of consent. This is a fantastic tool that helps develop embodied clarity about what you do and don't want to happen in regards to being touched. The choice to receive touch or not is always yours - I also understand some people may need support to exercise that power.
Somatic Sex Therapy
In these sessions you have the option to be naked, to receive intimate (i.e. genital) touch and explore your sexual arousal in a safe and embodied learning zone. We will thoroughly discuss your boundaries before touch begins, a session can include less than you intended but boundaries cannot be expanded upon once we have begun. This is because once arousal has entered the picture it becomes more difficult to make rational decisions. If things occur to you that are of interest beyond the scope of what's been agreed, this can be noted for possible subsequent sessions.
How do I know which therapy to choose?
Sometimes which therapy to use is really clear. This maybe because you have experienced a range of healing modalities enabling you to be really clear about where to go next. Or it maybe because during the intake process, you offer a piece of information that makes it really clear to me which tool in my toolkit will be most useful to your enquiry. If I am suggesting you start with a particular modality I will always do my best to explain why so you can make informed choices.
Sometimes it is not so clear either to you or to me where to begin. This is where the orientation session is really useful as it gives you chance to experience some of the ways that I work. It also offers me more time to explore your enquiry in depth out of which I can make a recommendation for a plan of work.
Family and systemic constellations is my baseline therapy as the most universally useful and applicable tool in my tool kit. There is no question it cannot be turned to so if in doubt I will tend to start here.
How many sessions do I need to have?
Some people really benefit from a single standalone session or a very short series - I am very happy to work with you in that way with you if it meets your needs!
I also often work with people across more substantial periods of time; doing so tends to produce deeper and longer lasting transformation. We might do episodic now and then sessions if, for instance, if you live outside London and are an infrequent visitor. I have clients who have created amazing transformations in their lives and relationships in this way.
I also welcome and favour "frequent flyers" - i.e. people who commit to seeing me weekly or fortnightly. This has the benefit of building a strong relational container through which we can safely access deeper insights and wounds. Much of what we play out in life was formed through our early relationships over many years: it often takes an equally substantial relational bond (in the therapeutic sense) to surface what is most hidden from view.
My greatest pleasure is to witness the radical transformation of entrenched problems into a new ease and love of life. Committing to being a frequent flyer offers the best chance for you to realise your goals.
How long are sessions?
Average session lengths:
- Family constellations therapy: 1.5 hours
- Rebirthing breathwork therapy: 2.5 hours
- Somatic sex therapy: 2 hours
- Soul energy optimisation: 1.5 hours for ongoing supervision, a full day intensive to birth your branding and website design prior to making it
The average session length is a good place to begin. Some people need less: e.g. a longer session might feel overwhelming and be counter productive. Some people need more: e.g. if you are on a one off visit to London and want to cover more in one go!
What happens in a session?
This is a brief summary of what happens in each session type for your ease of comparison. Please read each page linked to for the full picture:
We will spend some time talking about your themes and I will take a history. I will choose introductory methods from the area of my practice relevant to the query that you are bringing. These sessions do not include touch or bodywork. Where appropriate I will recommend a plan for further work.
You will be asked to complete a family tree form prior to your session. We will spend some time talking about your themes. We will then 'constellate' using your inner vision, floor markers or small figures. I will teach you how to do this so don't worry, I have several methods and there is a right one for everybody!
Where relevant I may ask you to complete a form requesting information about your birth. We will spend some time talking about your themes and then explore them more deeply by bringing attention to your body and your breath. For in person sessions, you may lie down during the breathing stage which can last for up to an hour. These sessions can include bodywork and touch that is clothed and non sexual.
We will spend some time talking about your themes. We will then explore your themes more deeply through your body. The most usual way to do this is touch from me to you, that includes the whole of your body and welcomes your arousal. Other methods we might draw on originate from Neo Tantra teachings. These include active meditations, where we might use your breath, movement and sound to facilitate expanding your sexual energy.
These are the only sessions I offer in which you can be naked and actively explore your sexual arousal.
My work with practitioners is a mixture of practical guidance and transformational enquiry, to unite what you do best with those whom you best serve. We can use constellations or breathwork to transform blocks in your working life. Or I can guide you to develop your own branding and website, so sessions will be much more practically orientated e.g. developing design and logo, writing copy, learning how to DIY your own website.
How much are sessions?
I work with people from a wide range of backgrounds and locations around the world. I positively value the diversity of my practice and therefore offer a sliding scale of fees. It may take time for you to engage with this added layer of complexity, however you also gain in one or more of the following ways:
- Through transparency i.e. no discounts hidden from view
- Because it feels great to thoroughly commit to your development AND support a fairer and more inclusive society, by choosing one of the two higher rates if you are able to!
- Because you might benefit from one of the two lower price bands
Prices shown are per hour, with the cost of an average length session in brackets.
Family Constellations Therapy
Assistive rate £80 (£120)
Higher rate £70 (£105)
Average rate £60 (£90 per 1.5 hour session)
Lower rate £50 (£75)
Very low rate £40 (£60)
Assistive rate £80 (£200)
Higher rate £70 (£175)
Average rate £60 (£150 per 2.5 hour session)
Low rate £50 (£125)
Very low rate £40 (£100)
Somatic Sex Therapy
Assistive rate £120 (£240)
Higher rate £110 (£220)
Average rate £100 (£200 per 2 hour session)
Low rate £90 (£180)
Very low rate £80 (£160)
Soul Energy Optimisation
Assistive rate £80 (£120)
Higher rate £70 (£105)
Average rate £60 (£90 per session)
Low rate £50 (£75)
Very low rate £40 (£60)
Please scroll to the next FAQ for more information on which rate to choose and how to apply for the lower rates.
How do I choose which rate to pay?
How do I select which rate to pay?
Most people pay the average rate for each therapy I offer.
Some people opt for the higher or assistive rates to indicate value and commitment, or just because you can. Paying the higher rates enables me to devote more time to developing new content and to run a more inclusive practice (i.e. you are "assisting" those on lower incomes to access my work). For the assistive rate sessions I offer follow up notes with additional insights - as a big thank you for choosing this rate!
Please be aware that unfortunately more people ask for the two lower rates than I am able to take on, so these are by application only. If you want to be sure of working with me please opt for the average rate if you can.
How much should I earn for each rate?
I don’t specify income bands because so many other factors vary such as:
- Number of dependents
- Access to property or capital
- Local and global variations in the cost of living
How do I apply for the lower rates?
Here are some of the factors that I use to decide:
- How suitable my work seems for you
- My current availability of low rate sessions
- How many sessions you are ready to commit to
- Intersectionality and gender e.g. LGBTQI, GSRD
Please say something about your circumstances and why you are applying for the lower rates on the booking form.
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