Online Family Constellations Workshops

Core information at a glance

What is Family Constellations — what shapes us, what sustains us?

Family Constellations Therapy (sometimes called Systemic Constellations) is an experiential approach for exploring how our relationships, family histories and wider social systems influence our lives. A constellation offers a way to sense, feel and see our experience in relation to the wider systems we are part of, including — but not limited to — our family of origin and ancestors.

Some people arrive already aware of histories of migration, war, loss or displacement; others know little or nothing about their biological family of origin. There can be many answers to the question, “Who raised you?” Family Constellations originated in the work of Bert Hellinger and has evolved considerably since. My own practice draws on this tradition while taking a wider view of family and kinship.

Biological ancestry can be important, but so can chosen and blended family, partners and friends, communities and cultural lineages, places and the natural world. Through a constellation, we can explore questions such as: What sustains you? What has influenced the person you have become? What might support greater agency and choice in the questions that you bring to this work?

How does Family Constellations work online?

A constellation begins with a question or situation you (the “issue holder”) want to explore. We may also identify a quality or change you hope to experience as the work unfolds — for example, greater clarity or connection. Your question does not need to be perfectly formed.

Together we identify some of the people, relationships, places, feelings or concepts — for example, “time” or “belonging” — that seem important, and invite group members to represent them within the constellation. Online, we use Gallery View and an intentionally small group so that representatives can be easily seen by the issue holder. We also rename participants on Zoom, to show clearly who or what each person is representing.

Representing is not role play. You do not need to act, perform, imagine what someone else might feel, or have any special knowledge. Instead, representatives are invited to notice what is actually happening in their own experience — sensations, emotions, impulses, images, movements or changes in how they relate to others in the constellation.

Online, a representative might find they can only look at one other representative and not the others — for example, “I am only aware of the land of my birth, and it is hard to see my partner.” Someone may look away from the screen entirely, or feel very tired and want to lie down. These responses become part of the unfolding enquiry, whilst staying oriented towards the change or quality the issue holder hopes for.

Many people return to groups for the experience of representing itself, because something quietly mysterious can become apparent through it. Representatives often notice or express things that seem surprisingly relevant to the person bringing the constellation, despite sometimes having been given little or no information about what they are representing. I have experienced this phenomenon often enough to take it seriously, while remaining open about how we might understand it.

My role as facilitator is to help shape and pace the enquiry, drawing on constellation practice, theory and experience while staying attentive to what is emerging in the group and to the person whose constellation it is. Consent and collaboration do not mean that anything goes: I may sometimes pause or redirect an exploration if it moves away from constellation practice, becomes more like role play, or risks placing another participant in a harmful or inappropriate position.

I bring skills and experience; you bring the lived experience of being you. What emerges is not treated as unquestionable truth, but as something you can recognise, question, reject, respond to or explore further.

What questions or themes can I bring to a constellation?

Many people come wanting to explore something connected with family: a difficult relationship, an ancestral history, estrangement, a recurring pattern, or a question about where they belong. These are all understandable starting points. You might also be surprised by how widely constellation work can be used!

Over the years I have worked with constellations involving:

• exploring the “heart” (core purpose, values & direction) of a new business
• someone’s relationship with their musical instrument and their playing
• characters in a fictional book, exploring where the story might want to go next
• a perplexing diary left by a deceased relative
• a name change, from birth name to chosen name
• the personal and relational dimensions of a difficult legal situation

What matters is less whether your question looks like a conventional “family issue” and more whether there is something you feel curious about, stuck with, pulled between, or unable to see clearly from where you are standing. We can begin with what you know and discover together what might be useful to explore.

What happens in an evening?

Each monthly group has a theme, shared in the joining information and used as a starting point for the evening. We begin with some time to arrive and settle, followed by a short experiential or guided exercise around that theme. You do not need to bring an enquiry that matches it. We then move into two participant constellations, with one person bringing an enquiry and other group members invited to represent elements within it.

Issue holders are chosen on the evening. I usually take into account the order in which people ask, whether someone has recently had a constellation, and whether someone has asked before without receiving one. I aim to make the process as fair and inclusive as I can, while also making space for people who may be slower to put themselves forward. You are equally welcome to attend without having your own constellation, and you can decline any invitation to represent or take part in an exercise.

Who are these groups for?

These groups are for adults who are curious about Family Constellations and want to explore something experientially alongside others. No previous experience or particular belief about the method is required — curiosity and healthy scepticism are both welcome.

Many of the people I work with are neurodivergent or LGBTQIA+, while many others are not. I offer a particular welcome to people whose lives or identities have not always been well represented in therapeutic spaces. What participants often have in common is a desire to live with greater authenticity, connection and choice.

My aim is to create a group where people can participate at their own pace, with room for different ways of communicating, processing and making sense of what emerges.

These groups might not be the right fit if:

• You currently need the greater privacy, continuity or individual support of 1-to-1 therapy. Group work can complement 1-2-1 therapy but is not a substitute for it.
• You need medical, psychiatric or other specialist clinical support that falls outside the scope of this group.
• You are currently in crisis or need urgent support. These workshops are not a crisis service.
• You are under the influence of alcohol or non-prescribed drugs when the group begins.

If you are unsure whether the group is suitable for you, you are welcome to contact me before booking.

Upcoming groups and booking

Online Family Constellations workshops take place on Monday evenings. Each group runs from 7–9pm London time and costs £30 per person. Places are limited to six participants and advance booking is required.

Dates in 2026

• 21st September
• 12th October
• 16th November
• Saturday 28th November – In-person Family Constellations day in London
• 14th December

Request a place

To join a group, please complete the short booking form below and let me know which date you would like to attend. The form asks a few questions about what you are looking for, and gives you space to share any needs, access requirements or questions in advance. Together we can establish whether this group feels like a good fit for what you need. If there is a place available, I will send you payment details. Your place is confirmed once payment has been received.

Joining online

Groups are held live on Zoom. Please join from a private, comfortable space where you can participate without being overheard or interrupted. A laptop or computer is preferable to a phone so that you can see the group as a whole. Please arrive at 6.55pm for a 7–9pm group. All times are UK time (GMT/BST).

Cancellations

If you cancel more than 48 hours before the group, I will refund your payment minus any payment-processing fees. Cancellations within 48 hours are non-refundable. If I need to cancel a group, your payment will be refunded in full.

You can also read these group and workshop guidelines, if you would like further information about consent, confidentiality and how I hold group spaces.