Manifesting Money

Medicine Stories

Session summaries shared with permission (all names have been changed) illustrating ancestral origins of problems and how a family constellation can bring resolution.

Presenting Theme: Manifesting Money

When it comes to manifesting money, Richard feels he exists within a narrow band that allows him to rent a home and make ends meet every month, but never more. If we explore what having “more” feels like it gives rise to feelings of exposure and threat. He also imagines that a greedy devil otherwise kept in check, might arise and overtake him.

The Family Constellation: Money Issues, an Ancestral Inheritance?

We are using inner visualisation with guidance and meeting on Skype. When discussing his family tree, an obvious source of money issues presents itself in the form of his paternal grandfather. He inherited a large sum of money and went down the pub to celebrate: buying everyone in the pub a drink, he enjoyed the feeling so much that he did the same the next night, and the next … The family story goes he was never a drinker before, but the celebration repeated until he drunk away the inheritance and moved beyond into debt. His family disowned him, he left in disgrace and his son (Richards father) took on the role of the man of the house.

The story provides an obvious potential source of his issue. However I notice feeling that it all seems too easy, like the answer has been handed to me on a plate. The words of my teacher ring in my ears: to be wary of the obvious masking something else. I invite Richard to visualise himself at a young age and see how it is to encounter his parents from the perspective of his inner child. Encountering his mother is easy and he can see her very clearly. Encountering his father is another matter though and he describes things as keeping on “dissolving”.

Family Constellation: A Secret Revealed

I test out a simple systemic statement “you gave me the gift of life”: he goes silent for a long while and I notice drifting off myself. When I ask what’s happening he says “well, I am not sure I can say it”. He goes on to say that his mother was ‘pretty promiscuous’ when dating his father – siblings joke that he looks like her but nothing at all like him. The story goes his parents married as a result of his own accidental conception, however he has wondered deep down if someone else is actually his real father.

I contemplate the “greedy devil” mentioned earlier in the session. I had assumed this character related to the story of his grandfather becoming alcoholic after an inflow of cash, however, everything is now cast in an entirely different light. I ask if he is willing to reflect inwardly for a while on the two statements “you gave me the gift of life” and “someone else gave me the gift of life”. I wonder what he will discern as he moves internally between them – and where to go next as I notice feeling lost.

In the gap I find myself reflecting upon the nature of conception and birth. What is it like I wonder, to consider ourselves the result of a “greedy accident” as oppose to a deliberate and considered act of creation? Did his father suspect his son not be his own? Perhaps he unconsciously offered a subsistence level of giving (on all levels) no more and no less than absolutely necessary for survival? Perhaps this is reflected in the way that Richard describes what he allows himself to have?

Conception, pregnancy and birth is how we came to be. How our own was can determine how we conceive ideas, then shape and give birth to them. Giving birth to a creation we may also receive the pleasure of seeing it grow, eventually returning a mirror of what we have input. We have the chance to both give and receive from any creation: whether business projects or children. But it is not a given that we will, so many factors combine and our creations require a deep humility of surrender to the unknown. They require us to invest for investments own sake, then practice a deep letting go into the world.

I know Richard to be highly accomplished and creative in several fields, I wonder why is he not manifesting money from his creations? Systemic theory proposes that it is hard for us to allow ourselves to have more than our parents received. Perhaps he has a block around receiving the rewards of his creations, if his actual father never received the rewards of his creation, through the knowing of his son? Or could the mere suspicion around paternity, block the man who did raise him (assuming he is the father) from enjoying his own son? Without knowing the truth for a while I am stumped as to how to proceed; perhaps after-all this is a mirror of Richards situation.

Family Constellation: A Resolving Image

Then some words seem to pour forth from me in an uncharacteristically emphatic way. I know Richard has a rich spiritual life and therefore has some resonance with concepts such as the higher self. I ask “so if you have a higher self, then your father does too, is that right?” He affirms this is true and the following statements come through me:

From the perspective of the higher self of your Father, your conception and birth was absolutely planned and wanted. It was a very precise karmic contract, creating exactly the conditions both of you needed to experience in this lifetime. Your conception and birth from this perspective, was an absolutely premeditated, deliberate and intentional act.

I ask him to tune in and feel the presence of his fathers higher self behind him. I ask him to feel it holding him, to breathe deeply and lean back into him and eventually to thank him for the gift of life. He relaxes deeply and for some time into this place and can easily follow the suggested course. When this completes I suggest he draw a picture of his fathers higher self and place it at the top of his bed; to feel being held by this presence as he goes to sleep until he integrates the unfamiliar sensation.

The language I used in this constellation felt intuitively right for Richards experiences and belief systems, in another context I might take a different course. Systemically there will be more to untangle towards his goals, additionally there are practical steps around establishing paternity that could be undertaken, should he choose. But this one session alone enabled him to feel something new, which he expressed in an email afterwards:

[I was able to] feel into the deep lack of connection from my Dad, and to replace it with something else which feels very powerful