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Somatic sex therapy sessions:

Therapeutic & educative pleasure explorations

  • one to one somatic sex therapy sessions
  • online: Zoom or Skype worldwide
  • in person: London, UK
  • minimum session length 1.5 hours
  • enquire for longer groups and intensives
  • sliding fee scale based on income, see below
Somatic sex therapy – healing & the pleasure in our body:

Problems with our sexuality tend to originate from events in our past. In fact it could be said that our sexual problems actually function to make us aware of something that requires our deeper and more loving attention.

Emotional and psychological issues often underly sexual dysfunction (e.g. ED, PE, vaginal numbness, anorgasmia). Breathwork and Family Constellations are great modalities for looking beneath the surface, to unravel the mysteries that lead to these problems.

Healing comes as we integrate responses to trauma and learn to regulate our nervous systems.

However we may also want to learn about the pleasure in our body, in a more direct and hands on way! We can learn through touch that welcomes sexual arousal, and includes intimate areas of your body (such as your genitals, anus or breasts).

This offering arises from cumulative practice and study dating back to 2003. Between 2009 and 2018 I worked under the name Tantra4Tigers. I have now gathered this work under the title somatic sex therapy, and this is a summary of its key components:

Pleasure education (sensate): pleasure lives in your body. But we might need to relearn how to focus on our senses to experience the pleasure that lives there. This is the intention of educative and skilful touch that includes your whole body.

Pleasure education (erotic): pleasure also lives in our erotic imagination. Sessions are a safe space to enquire into and speak about your erotic life. Practical guidance includes building the skills and confidence necessary, to reclaim your erotic life.

Consent education: before we we can safely engage in our pleasure with others, we need embodied consent skills. Embodied consent teachings (the wheel of consent) frame all my work to keep you safe. They also radically improve your relationship with pleasure and asking for what you want.

Therapeutic touch (learning): Learn to notice what is pleasurable in your body through receiving touch. Once you notice what is pleasurable, it can be a step before you really trust and value that. Once you really own your pleasure, it gets easier to ask for the touch that you want.

Therapeutic touch (healing): Sometimes we just don’t have a road map for what might feel good in our body. Additionally, our pleasure may be bound up with alot of physical tension. Regarding the therapeutic value of touch, I work in the following 4 ways:

  • Water: flowing touch that connects with your emotions and sensuality
  • Earth: deeper touch for your physical body to release core holding
  • Fire: rocking, pulsing, impact, rhythmic – touch that helps you release
  • Air: subtle touch both on and off your body; touch that moves energy

Spiritual enquiry: many of us have received sex negative messages, which can distance us from the inherently sacred nature of sex. Ritual can return us to this. Breath can awaken transcendent feeling, sexual energy can buzz from your roots to your crown!

These experiences expand our notion of what sex is, they can also profoundly alter our life path as we become more open, spontaneous, sensitive and alive.

What happens in a session?

We establish your overall intent, which usually falls into one or more of the following categories:

  • educative – to learn something new
  • therapeutic – to overcome an issue
  • guidance – to enquire and find answers
  • pleasure – to request and maybe receive
  • spiritual – to find a mentor and learn

Your category of enquiry will shape the session content, but to give you some general idea:

  • we will spend about third of the session in preliminary conversation and supporting practices
  • we will spend about two thirds of the session engaged in a central physical practice of some kind, that explores your presenting enquiry
  • The most common central practice is you receiving touch that includes space for your sexual arousal, however it is not the only one
  • there are a range of practices both structured and creative, that we can use to enquire into your pleasure, or to help overcome an issue that you have
  • the space is clothing optional for you (i.e. you can undress)
  • my sexual arousal is not in the mix, and I will remain clothed
Somatic sex therapy costs:

Somatic sex therapy sessions are a minimum of 1.5 hours long. I offer a sliding scale to take account of local and international economic variations. All prices shown are per single hour.

Choose a clear commitment of investment relative to your own resources (and international exchange rates), to get the most from your work with me!

  • £80 very low income (i.e. £120 per minimum length session) *
  • £90 low income *
  • £100 average income
  • £110 higher incomes
  • £120 assistive rate **
  • Bulk somatic sex therapy session discount ***
Notes:

*  the lower rates are extremely limited in this area of my work, and by application
** choose assistive rate if you can, to support the inclusive practice of sliding fees. You will also receive an added benefit (detailed session follow up notes) to say thank you
*** Book and pay for 10 somatic sex therapy sessions in one go, to receive a 10% discount, yes the 10th session is free!

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